Cocktails With Patrick Recap - 8.3.10

By Briana-@alinacat1401


Dinner Bills-What to do?

We have all been in an awkward bill situation with another couple. Should we pay? Should we split the bill? It’s a bethos moment, for sure.

Patrick and his date rented a room to stay in the Hampton’s for Taylor’s wedding. A swimsuit was left at the residence. Emails went back and forth about getting the bathing suit back. One thing led to another, and Patrick and Chloe were invited to dinner with the renter couple last night (thinking it was at their house). They ended up going to a fancy dining establishment-pricey! The other couple ordered for them, etc. The bill comes, and the couple wants to split the bill, which was super high, especially for a Monday night! Awkward duck! On the upside, they had a wonderful time. The couple was very nice and enjoyable to spend time with.

Becky called in from Maryland. Her jaw dropped when she heard that they had to split the bill. She did have a good point-the couple must have thought that YB was well off and up for a $200 dinner on a Monday night!

This translates into dating. What do you do when a man wants to split the bill or expects you to pick up the bill? Guys, if you can’t pay for it, don’t take a gal out, especially if it’s one of the few first dates.

Rachel in NY is newly dating a guy. Should she reach for the bill? Should they go dutch? Patrick and Lea both say to make an effort to move your purse to your lap or the table. It’s very much a test for the guy. A gentleman would not accept money from you for dinner. Us fun fearless females are able to pay, but it is respectful for the man to take care of the tab-enjoy chivalry!

Why do guys NOT want you to go down there? Why do they want to go down on you?

The answer is NOT that she is not good at it.

A man called in to say that a girl’s body language can play into it. Is she not into it? Is she not into it and feeling like it is a chore? A man wants their partner to enjoy it as much as they do. Another thought-the Madonna Whore complex.

The majority of men enjoy going down on their lady-they love their partner and want to please her in any way possible.

Brian in Arizona called. He said that it could be an insecurity thing on the guys part, regarding his size. Patrick brought up the point that size is much more important to the guy, rather than the gal.

If the girl seems bored or disgusted by it, it’s a turn off. Gals have insecurities about themselves just like guys do. Appearance, time it takes, etc. This all plays into oral sex, and can put a damper on the fun!

Check this out:

http://twitpic.com/1jfytm. YB is an expert! This is a pic from a previous show (I missed it the first time around-glad they reposted it-love it!).

Pamela in Canada called in. Her boyfriend will not let her go down on him. It’s a cultural thing for them. It bothers her, since she would like to. Her boyfriend, however, is against it.

Does you guy bring troubles from outside of the relationship into your relationship?

Stephanie called from Texas and said that this is not necessarily a guy thing. When she has a bad day, she brings it home. A couple is very close-when something happens to one, it has an affect on the other. Moods are somewhat attached between two people that are in a relationship. Lea wants a man to talk to her about his day and his troubles. Patrick said that a man’s reaction is to go into a cave and think about it, without help from a significant other.

Emily in New Hampshire is engaged-when her fiance brings home troubles from work etc and picks a fight, she asks him why he is taking his emotions out on her. This helps him to step back and see if the argument applies to her or not, and helps to curtail arguments that are not necessary.

Great calls, and great conversation! Be appreciative of your partner, and don’t take him for granted.

Little things-are they indicative to a healthy relationship?

Flowers, cards, gifts, we all love those! A caller said that she has been with her boyfriend for two years, and he no longer gives birthday cards. YB mentioned someone who brings his girlfriend flowers every Thursday. Patrick suggests sending flowers to the lady at work-and I totally agree! I LOVE it when my husband sends me flowers at work-so thoughtful, so beautiful, and it’s fun to show them off! Tracy said that chivalry works both ways. Both parties need to do special things for each other, whether is be a gift or doing something he would like.

Video Games

Are you okay with your guy being a gamer? Tons of calls! In general, callers think that gaming in moderation is okay. When it goes overboard, not so much. That pretty much goes with anything-moderation is key.

Last Call

Bieber is putting out a book of pictures.

Paramount Pictures want to turn Bieber’s book into a motion picture.

J Bieber, first name, last name!

Poll Question of the Day

A. Yes we chat once in a while about what is/isn't working

B. It usually comes out as an argument, but it happens

C. No, we have never done this

And the winner is….B, with 47.1% of the vote.